(Because love doesnât end when parenting beginsâit just needs a new rhythm.)
Letâs be honest:
When you have a baby, everything changesâyour sleep, your schedule, your sex life, your sense of self.
And in the middle of all that beautiful chaos, itâs easy for intimacy to⌠vanish.
But that doesnât mean itâs gone forever.
It means it needs to evolveâjust like you did.
Hereâs how to keep your connection alive while navigating life with little humans.
đ 1. Redefine What Intimacy Means Now
Itâs not just sex. Itâs closeness.
Itâs soft touches while folding laundry.
Itâs a knowing glance in the middle of toddler tantrums.
Itâs feeling seen when youâre completely touched out.
Litly helps you stay emotionally tuned inâso even when physical energy is low, your connection stays strong.
â° 2. Schedule Connection Without Guilt
Yes, really.
Put it in the calendar like a doctorâs appointment or grocery run.
It could be:
- A 20-minute couch cuddle after bedtime
- A 10-minute check-in chat without distractions
- A no-pressure âconnection dateâ that may or may not lead to sex
đĄ Spontaneity is beautiful. But planning is what keeps it alive.
đ§ 3. Understand Your New Emotional Landscape
Hormones, fatigue, identity shiftsâitâs a lot.
That emotional load affects:
- Desire
- Patience
- Energy to initiate intimacy
Tracking moods with Litly helps you understand when your partner may be feeling affectionate, withdrawn, overwhelmed, or in need of support.
Syncing makes reconnection smoother, not something you have to âforce.â
đŹ 4. Talk About What You MissâNot Whatâs Missing
Instead of âwe never have sex anymore,â
say âI miss feeling close to you.â
Instead of âyouâre never affectionate,â
say âI miss the way you used to hold my hand when weâd talk.â
đŹ Gentle honesty > blame.
đ 5. Give Each Other Permission to Relearn Desire
Youâre not the same people you were before kids.
And thatâs okay.
Rebuilding intimacy means:
- Being patient with each otherâs bodies
- Exploring new ways to feel close
- Letting go of pressure and performance
Itâs not about âgetting back to normal.â
Itâs about creating a new normal together.

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